Case in point...
For Some Parents,
Shouting is the New Spanking
“I've worked with thousands of parents and I can tell you, without question, that screaming is the new spanking..."
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"This is so the issue right now."
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“My name is Francesca Castagnoli and I am a screamer,” began
a post on Motherblogger.net earlier this year. “Admitting I’m a mom that screams,
shouts and loses it in front her kids feels like I’m revealing a dark family secret.”
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Strategies to stop yelling abound. Ms. Klein said she has a friend who gives herself a timeout by going into another room when she feels a scream coming on.
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How can this be???
Nearly ten years into the new millennium and we still
can't find a way to discipline our children without traumatizing them (or ourselves)
in the process?
We might as well be living in the Dark Ages. Surely there
are more civilized approaches to child rearing.
Of course there are. In fact,
I can think of three right off the bat...
Permissive Parenting
You know what's so great about permissive parenting?
Permissive parenting requires a lot less work than traditional parenting, and a lot less work means permissive parents have a lot more time to spend on other stuff.
And let's not forget about all the guilt and blowback that's alleviated by permissive parenting.
For example, you can avoid guilt by not getting all ogre-like with a child when he or she calls you a "c**ksucking douchebag". (You know you're only going to regret it later). You also avoid the subsequent wrath your child will reign upon you for
days (possibly weeks) thereafter should you loose your cool in such a situation.
Less guilt and blowback means less stress, and who doesn't want less stress
in their lives?
You Wanna Know What's Even Better Than Permissive
Parenting?
Letting teachers and school officials decide what's best
for kids.
And why shouldn't they? If you discount sleep hours, children probably spend a lot more time at school than they do at home.
So why should parents be the ones making all the tough decisions associated with
child rearing?
Talk about stressful and time-consuming!
But You Know What's Even Better Than Letting Teachers and School Officials Decide What's Best for Kids?
Giving parents the option of handing a child over to a government agency the second he or she starts getting on their
nerves and/or costing them too much money.
What would be so bad about that?
Besides, everyone knows that being a sperm or egg donor doesn't automatically make one
a "parent", so why should sperm/egg donors be expected to act like parents
if they don't feel like it?
And where, exactly, is it written that individuals who bring children into this world are required to assume one huge boatload of responsibilities after another, or else(!)?
It's not, that's where.
Therefore, free and affordable government-sponsored child rearing
is the constitutional right of all Americans whose sperm/egg donations result
in offspring, unwanted or otherwise.
Or it should be...
Because what we're doing now clearly isn't working.
